A free man in a free country, as yet!

I have been comtemplating for a while now, to post something like 'Who can marry me' or '10 simple conditions for eternal happiness' or atleast something similar. I haven't been able to.

Necessity, they say, is the mother of all inventions. I don't really know if there is a necessity of such a thought. There must be. Else, it couldn't have made me write.

Anxiety, a fear for the unknown, a liking for the unknown, craving to know the unknown, what should I call it? Some say it is loss of independence, a friend of mine called it murder! The world knows it as marriage.

I know I have sometime to do that all. I was even sporting this crazy little notion that I wouldn't marry at all. (A corner of my mind is still questioning why I am calling it 'crazy little'!). But I know I might just do that, if I live that long, raising the many questions. Whom will I.. Well, that's the only question!

So let me start off without boring you any further. Let me also try to make this a little interesting so that you go through completely.

'Life is a bloody fashion show, one after another', a cool guy says in a movie. 'You keep showing off before people.'

Money. One main show-off commodity. I know I may sound neo-liberal in pushing it aside. But thats not what I wan't to prove. Some of my 'friends' even say they will accept a red coloured Maruti car or a 30-40 site or a few lakhs of dowry from an person unknown till then. 'Why should I refuse if someone is willing to give,' said a friend of mine the other day. Now, to put it as harmlessly, to the majority, as possible, I am not for all this. Ah! I had forgotten, some guys go on free honeymoon trips to Thailand or Mauritius..

Caste. A classical judgement tool. Use it and judge the world! Honestly, why should anyone despise me because of my birth in a particular family. If, as some people put it, caste is mainly about eating habits, what if I have outgrown my family habit? Caste, as the Bhagavadgeeta puts it, with a lot of rationale, is not by birth but by the personality you develop, by the work you do, by the way you think and which is influenced by the environment in which you grow. Given the system and the circumstances we live in, how many of us are limited to the confines of our house or of our family to be influenced only by its habits. Nevertheless, family still plays a vital role in the formative years of most of our lives, though the borders of a family get thinner with wider exposure.

Love. Again a friend of mine, laughs at me whenever I say this word. There is nothing like this, its all a matter of convinience, he says(Btw, he had once 'loved' a girl!). There's nothing I can write about this. People have their definitions. All I can say is I would love to love [:)]

What else do people look at? Hmmmm.. Ah!..

Language. Kannada and Korean. I don't know many other languages. I'll let you all know as and when I get updated!

Place. BengaLooru or USA. Until recently I thought these were the only two places where many pretty girls stayed. (But frankly, the probability, atleast I feel, of finding a pretty girl is higher in these two places!)

Certificates. I have quite a few of them; 1st prize in tri-cycle racing in LKG being among the ones I cherish quite a bit. If you don't have any of them, don't worry I'll get you a cycle!

Height. Some of them have remarked that I have grown a little taller than the earlier 5 feet 6. I have been swimming these days you know. Its okay even if you are slightly taller than me. Too much difference might not be taken in a good spirit by the society and may lead to comedy stuff. Nevertheless, I know an aunty in front of our house who goes walking with her husband only after the sun sets!

Weight. Given the tendency of girls to grow into fat women, let the initial weight be around mine, 55(+10 is okay).

Given that I am a hypocrat myself, to some extent, I can't demand anything. But lesser the better. (Hey, I am working at it too!)

A philosophical outlook and openmindedness. (That one was a bit serious, wasn't it?)


All of you who happpen to read till here, I thanku.
These were some honest words of a humble Indian on the eve of an Independence day waiting to lose independence, though not immediately!

If you happen to be a girl matching a few or all of the conditions(read it as requests), then please feel free to contact me personally.
On the other hand, if you don't fall into the category of a female and if you are unmarried, this might serve as a valuable blueprint to prepare wedding resumes.
If you are married, then may God bless you.